The self-care* revolution: defeating self-neglect, one banana at a time

Posted by on Nov 13, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

I was sitting in my car, waiting to go in for my therapy, with thank you notes in my lap.  I always do this—bring work with me somewhere, for the scraps of time in between appointments. Most tasks return home undone.  I perpetually overestimate how much I can do.  It is a dilemma I put myself in often, and something I try to untangle most days. So I have this beautiful card in my hand.  It’s a dreamy watercolor, with autumn leaves resting on the surface of a bluegreen pool.  A peaceful image. I’m admiring it.  And then the hunger pangs start. I’ve been awake since 6 am.  It’s nearly 9, and I haven’t eaten. I’m sitting in my car, and I start...

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Ten minutes to happier holidays

Posted by on Nov 2, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

It’s November 1st. So, I’m bookended neatly in between Halloween and looking at the long/not-so-long stretch of holiday season that will carry me into 2017. And this year, I’m hoping to tweak things a little bit. Because I do that every year. So here is this year’s attempt.  You’re welcome to try this out with me if you like. My rather complicated relationship with lists As always, I’m wanting to feel prepared.  I want a head start on things.  Typically, I make lists of things I want/need to get done. The thing is, I often I end up feeling oppressed by these lists. I lose perspective. I don’t apply a sense of priority to the items on them. I fret about...

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Baby blues or something more? 20 signs of postpartum depression

Posted by on Sep 27, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

You might be wondering if what you’re feeling is postpartum depression or if you’re going through some of the typical emotional growing pains that new parents face. I say–“When in doubt, check it out!“ As with most things, there’s a range of how people feel and cope after having a baby.  Having a child is a life altering event, and the emotional aftermath can be intense. As you look over the list below, pay attention to how many items fit your experience.  Consider, too, how intense each one is, how long it has lasted, and how they converge to impact your quality of life overall. 1.) Hopelessness.  It’s hard to imagine that things will ever...

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Finding Hope When You Feel Hopeless: Recovery from Childhood Trauma, Abuse, and Neglect

Posted by on Aug 22, 2016 in Blog | 2 comments

Today’s post is by Kristen Henshaw, a counseling intern working at our sister practice, Counseling South Austin.  Kristen agreed to write a post for me about one of her areas of specialty:  trauma.  Learn more about Kristen and how to schedule a free consultation with her at the bottom of this post.  I’ll return next week to write more about mental health for mamas– stay tuned! The Impact of Childhood Trauma and Abuse Children who experience relational trauma in the forms of physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, or witnessing family violence, often grow into adults with persistent, and at times, debilitating challenges. They are...

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People pleasing and new moms: the perfect storm

Posted by on Aug 9, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

New moms and people pleasing.  If you’ve been following along, I bet you can see how those two combined make for some pretty stormy weather. Even new moms with pretty sturdy boundaries can find themselves lost in those early years of mothering.  (Unsupported.  Depleted.  Feeling like failures.) Much of what I do in work with people pleasers extends to the kind of work I’m doing with new moms, things like: + learning to say no without feeling guilty + support in setting up a regular practice of self-care + practice identifying and responding to one’s own needs, wishes, and feelings + exploring the roots of where this stuff comes from, so you can be a better...

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A New Specialty: Counseling for New Moms in Austin

Posted by on Aug 3, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

In a way, my private practice is set up selfishly. Yeah, I know it seems like a contradiction in terms—I’m a therapist, and I’m passionate about helping others. And given that I’ve struggled with being a people-pleaser most of my life, other people’s needs have almost always figured front and center for me. (That’s a big part of what people-pleasing is all about—getting crowded out of your own life by the needs and feelings of others.) So how does being selfish figure in? Being a selfish therapist Being in private practice lets me choose who I work with. And because I get to choose, I often work with people whose struggles and stories somehow mirror my...

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This is how it goes sometimes

Posted by on Mar 16, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

I stood at the kitchen counter, peering down into the white paper sack that was supposed to hold my dinner. I did a mental inventory of the contents again, sure I was missing something. One package of disposable plastic dinnerware. A bundle of napkins. Two packages of saltine crackers. One large container of cream gravy. A pat of soft butter. And that was all. I checked the fridge, then the bag, then the fridge again. “Honey?” I called to my husband.  “Where is my dinner?” It was 9 pm.  It had been a long day.  I was hungry.  I was tired.  The baby wasn’t sleeping well. And the restaurant folks, in their rush to put together a to-go order, had included all...

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Now Accepting FSA and HSA Plans!

Posted by on Feb 29, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Hooray!  I’m finally catching up with the rest of the world. Last year, Labyrinth Healing started to accept credit cards for payment, using PayPal Here. Now you can use your HSA and FSA cards to pay for your counseling sessions as well.  No more requesting paper statements to prove to your plan that you’re seeing a counselor!  …Well, unless your plan doesn’t issue you a card to charge expenses, in which case I’m happy to keep offering those statements to you.  Just let me know. HSA plans are a nice way to budget for therapy—you pull money from your paycheck before taxes get pulled and can pay for therapy with those pre-tax funds.  Some companies...

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Tame Your Tech: One simple tip for mindful computer use

Posted by on Jan 19, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

My computer and I have something of an unhealthy relationship, I realize. Since my at-home office space has been commandeered by other family members, I find myself sitting at the dining room table a lot. My computer hangs out there, a simple, constant reminder of work to be done. Last night I lured by its bright glow from across the room. I ended up sitting in the kitchen googling nothing in particular and found myself on the wrong side of my bedtime with nothing to show for it. If this were a one time thing, I wouldn’t be writing about it. But it’s habitual.  And it’s a problem. While I’m not big into resolutions this year, this is one relationship I am...

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“Are You Pregnant or Are You Just Getting Fat?”: Five Steps to Body Image Acceptance During Pregnancy

Posted by on Jan 5, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

I’m dabbling in different types of collaboration this year– and that includes welcoming some new voices to the blog!  Today’s guest post comes from Kate Daigle, a therapist specializing in eating disorder recovery in Denver.  Kate offers a refreshingly honest & open perspective in her writing.  Lately we’ve been commiserating about some of the unique complexities of pregnancy, motherhood, and being a therapist in private practice.  In this post, Kate offers some valuable and compassionate perspectives on body image and pregnancy.  You can see my guest post for her blog here. Finding out you are pregnant can be one of the most exciting...

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Thank You, 2015!

Posted by on Dec 28, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

I’m sitting on a heap of thank you’s this year.  Again. I was looking at this letter I wrote three years ago, and I realized that I’m way overdue in writing a proper thank you note. So, here goes. 2015 has been a rich, ripe year for me. In 2015, I had time to deeply immerse myself in my practice. I had the chance to sit with thoughtful, courageous people willing to do the work that will make their lives better and better. I say it every year, because it’s true:  I am lucky to do what I do, and I thank my clients for their trust in me and their commitment to themselves and our time together. In 2015, I had the precious opportunity to have time away from...

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The brimming year

Posted by on Dec 15, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

2015 has been quite year. It’s been such a big one for me that I had to take a hiatus from the blog for a long, long while. And it’s because I’ve been brimming.  Most people think of “brimming with gratitude” when they hear the word brimming. And I’m happy to say that I’ve had moments like those, yes. But I’ve also been brimming with other things. Brimming with sadness, brimming with fear. Brimming with anger, brimming with jealousy. Brimming with joy, brimming with love. I’ve been brimming with all sorts of feelings this past year. And what about you? What’s been brimming in your heart this year?  Will you be partaking of more of the same in...

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Hello, hello!

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

Hi, you guys! It’s been a while, huh? My last post was written in September of 2014, more than a year ago. I know I left things without a bunch of preamble. Here’s what was going on, in a nutshell. Last fall, I took the time away from my blog because I was newly pregnant and utterly exhausted. I needed that extra time and energy to focus on myself.  And, well, then there was my maternity leave over the summer, and dealing with all the upheaval and shenanigans with having a young baby in the house. Those shenanigans are still going on, mind you. But I have two moments to stitch together this morning (madness!) and I’ve got this notion in my head that I could write...

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The end

Posted by on Sep 9, 2014 in Blog | 2 comments

I write this sitting in my meditation spot at home. There a stick of incense lit, resting in a little wooden holder, a few feet away from me. It’s quiet in the room, and dim.  A perfect spot for thinking. I’m watching the plumes of smokes as they rise from the stick of incense. A fan is on, and so the smoke rises and falls, billowing and withering as it goes. I feel like the stick of incense and the urgent ribbon of smoke that’s rising from it. Alive, consuming, and a bit chaotic. That’s why I’m planning to stop writing this blog. The end of the blog I realize that I need to stop writing in this blog. I can put together a list of easily describable reasons for...

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Put your energy toward worthy things

Posted by on Sep 2, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Each of us is a tiny inkwell, full of ink. And every day, we have a chance to write something. It might be a phrase, a love letter, a dirty limerick… Some days, it might be a scrawled expletive, underlined twice, a question, an indecipherable inkblot. We wake up each morning with a certain amount of energy. A certain amount of ink. Some days, we have more.   Some days, less. And every day, we write our story. We spend & share our energies in different tasks, among different people. I’m wanting to conserve my energies today, so I’m keeping things short & sweet: Do you like what you’re writing? If not, it’s okay. You can change the quill, the...

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